Warning Signs
Most abused women will tell you that there were warning signs associated with the domestic abuse that they encountered. This is something that mostly all abused women will tell other women, but they still do not take heed to this warning. Many abused women find themselves in a domestic abuse relationship for several years, but do not admit to themselves that there were warning signs, until some years after they are able to break away from the situation. Women just do not want to believe that their partner would do something like this to them. They just do not want to believe that their loved ones could do anything to hurt them. Unfortunately, most abused women say that the situation would have all been avoided if they were able to get out of the domestic abuse situation, much earlier. Then, there are other abused women that say that they could have stayed in the relationship, and have not fell victim to domestic abuse if they had put their foot down and set boundaries from the early on in the relationship. No matter what your viewpoint is, if there is ever an element of domestic abuse that creeps into your relationship, you want to get out of that situation, immediately.
ONE. One warning sign that abused women say is characteristic of domestic abuse is extreme jealousy. Many abused women say that they noticed their partners to be extremely protective of them and their whereabouts, as well as their associations. Abused women have said that their mates set up a manipulation tactic that allowed them to constantly monitor their comings and goings. From there, it got to the point where many abused women say they found themselves in a situation where their mates started enforcing personal restrictions. They said that, eventually, they had to ask permission just to leave the house, and they were to always inform their partner about what they were doing at any given moment of the day. At first, many abused women will admit that they took this behavior as gestures of love… until they saw that love turn to hate. They say that the physical domestic abuse began to occur. The thing that they most regret is, not that the first incident occurred- because that was to no fault of their own- but, the fact that they decided to stay, despite the abuse.
TWO. Another common warning sign that abused women say is a sign of physical domestic abuse was the verbal domestic abuse that first occurred. Women say that their partners begin to belittle them in ways that were inhumane. Their mates began to attack the very essence of who they were as an individual. During this process, many said that they began to loose their integrity. Since they had lost their self-worth, they went on to accept the physical domestic abuse.